Author Archives: Stefania

Life after covid

Long story short.. after about 10 days I finally got also my smell back and my energy. For the past 2 nights I even went to bed at 22:00 and I felt rested and eager to start the day in the morning.

I even went back to read from my Audit and Assurance book.. That would be the last exam from the Applied Skills module, this is what motivates me…

Otherwise, I don’t know if is the fact that now I have time to study barely in the weekends when baby sleeps (because during the week I work), the covid or my personal attention deficit disorder (not officially diagnosed) but I still don’t understand much from this topic, because I didn’t have any contact with audit or assurance before… Maybe after I finish reading all the chapters I will be able to make more sense out of it.

And to procrastinate even more, yesterday I ordered the books for my first topic from the Professionals module: Strategic Business Leader, because I couldn’t resist the 30% off Black Friday discount. Ok, it was Saturday. Did you know that this exam is 4h long? Anyway, I saw in the contents preview that it has some chapters on some topics I am curious about. I mean, more than audit&assurance.

And what else… not much really, I don’t feel myself in much mood to write lately. And I hate this new blog writting tool/interface from wordpress. I could just daydream all day long. Except from when I have to parent. And work. And cook. And do laundry. Ok bye for now. Today in her 1.5h of sleep already, I barely read one page and remember not even 10% from it. It snows so peacefully outside. Day-dream mode I told you.

I passed Taxation!!!

Yeeey!!!

And I started watching Suits. And it came to me the idea to do a mock LSAT test, I found a practice one online. Just for fun. And for keeping my neurons sharp. I will let you know the result, when I will have time for it.

We are still waiting for baby’s transcript of birth certificate. Because, you know, in Romania it takes 1 month to put a stamp on a paper. More or less.

Anyhow… I’m really hoping we will have where to go back to CZ and they don’t file for total quarantine, considering the amount of reported positive cases lately.

The future belongs to smart people

While doing my EPSM module from ACCA I had a small revelation. I was saying more than a year ago that school systems as we knew them are bound to slowly dissolve, even faster now thanks to this covid crisis.

And to add something a bit more tabu, aka astrology, we are in the middle of a Jupiter-Saturn-Pluto transit in Capricorn which means a significant transformation of work systems for the better. But you can google this if you want more details.

So.. as the tranditional school systems will dissolve, kids will start to embrace online curriculums which will give the opportunity to be followed at each one’s pace. So the smarter you are the faster and farther you can get. The advantage is that intelligent kids will not be bored in class anymore and the slower ones will not develop anxieties and be bullied anymore based on their results. Specializations will be much easier to follow from young ages because there will be no more standardised school subjects and no more national tests on all disciplines for all kids in primary schools. The borders from countries and languages will also dissolve, thanks to technology will be able to understand ourselves in real time with basically anyone.

The problem will be for us to adapt to the new times, not for them. My baby surprised me today when she was touching a button on the screen of my laptop and I had to explain to her which tools are touch screen and which not. At 1 year old.

We bought her a mock play phone and she liked that she has songs but when my dad wanted to pretend with her that he is talking on the phone she looked weird at him and she brought him my smart-phone: “Gran’pa, if you want to call someone use this one, that one is not a phone. Is just a lousy toy.” 20 years from now, the smart-phone that I’m using now will be the “rotary phone” for our kids. Can we even imagine the future?

And something else, the governments and the school systems have no interest at all to introduce subjects like “healthy eating”, “sexual education” and “financial planning”.

We, as a race, we failed just about when we started to make advertising campaigns for medications and vitamin supplements. I haven’t watched TV for a long time but now being back in my home country I’m shocked to see how many commercials we have on… drugs. I will not be surprised in the future to see commercials on TV for drugs that are now prescribed for adhd and spectrum disorders just to enhance kids abilities. More drugs more money more drugs.

But to conclude in a positive note: the best skill that we can steward in our kids is genuine curiosity. Curiosity is the best vitamin and energiser.

Mai stăm o lună

Au trecut așa repede două săptămâni, nu am avut timp nici să mă duc la coafor. Așa că mai stăm. Are birocrația grijă să ne îndeplinească cele mai subconștiente dorințe. Adică trebuie să mai stăm, ca să așteptăm niște acte, de care depind alte acte.

Pe scurt: ca să pot să-mi reînoiesc buletinul meu trebuie să depun certificatul de naștere al bebelinei în română. Adică originalul în cehă cu formular multilingv atașat nu e suficient pentru autoritățile noastre române. Pentru că, în Cehia se pare că nu e suficientă cartea de rezidență permanentă, pentru a-mi face buletin acolo. Sau Dumnezeu știe.. Adică mi-am mai omorât mii de neuroni și pentru asta… mai mult sau mai puțin degeaba.

De fapt am început postarea asta voind să scriu că mă simt mai bine din punct de vedere emoțional și nervos… așa că trecem repede peste aspectul legislativ. Eu am făcut tot ce mi-a stat în putință, acum lucrurile se petrec în afara zonei mele de control, deci nu mai am de ce să mă mai stresez.

Azi m-am trezit cu poftă de croșetat. 😄

La ACCA am început modulul de Etică și Abilități Profesionale (EPSM), care trebuie parcurs și absolvit înainte de P-uri.. E interesant dar luuuung.. Într-o săptămână abia am parcurs 6% din el. Apoi mai am de dat și Audit and Assurance din F-uri, dar poate acest modul îmi face tranziția mai ușoară (adică eu tot sper că am făcut suficient la Taxation cât să-l trec… abia pe 20 Octombrie aflu rezultatul).

În rest… cu munca, pregătim fișierele de raportare pentru FY21. Și mi-aș dori să mă plimb și prin București cu bebe vreo 2-3 zile înainte să ne întoarcem. Că de mers la mare nu cred că se mai pune problema…

Felicitări, USR Câmpulung Muscel!

Ieri după-amiază, în timp ce bebe se plimba cu bunicii ei, în curtea grădiniței cu program prelungit – în care am învățat în primii mei 3 ani în Câmpulung, după 3.5 ani trăiți la țară la Jugur – , m-am auzit zicând că dacă iese Elena Lasconi ne mutăm înapoi şi o dau și pe ea acolo.

Dar realitatea e alta. Adică mult mai complicată…

Cât m-am plimbat prin clădire să votez, nici nu am apucat să mă uit măcar în jur. M-am visat de nenumărate ori pe acolo în ultimii ani, dar pentru mine “căminul” a fost o perioadă mai mult sau mai puțin traumatizantă, în timpul comunismului… cel mai mult îmi amintesc de toaletele alea cu vase de wc extrem de reci, fără capace, unde mirosea constant a clor. Dacă închid ochii și acum îmi mai amintesc acel miros. La câteva luni după “admitere” am făcut pneumonie bilaterală… 4 săptămâni de injecții. Apoi, când ajunsesem deja la grupa mare, acolo am leșinat prima oară (sau cel puțin, prima oară când îmi aduc aminte), în timpul unei repetiții pentru serbare..

Sper că s-au mai schimbat lucrurile de atunci.. Atât în comfortul din clădire cât și în calitatea educatoarelor și a metodelor de educare, și că se vor schimba și mai mult în continuare.

Dar, să mă întorc de tot în Câmpulung (adică eu cu bebe)… deocamdată nu se pune problema asta. Mai sunt multe alte opțiuni până aici.

Anybody (still) here?

If you don’t own a YouTube channel with at least 10.000 Subscribers or a Tik-Tok account with God knows how many are there, it’s like you don’t exist in the 2020ies. Or if you don’t have shares in Amazon, Google, Facebook etc preferably purchased at least 5 years ago…

Anyway… This week I learned something that shocked me… You know, in those times when I didn’t know if my baby will last inside of me until term or if I will get to raise a preemie, I got familiar with several YouTube channels of young/teen moms. There is Allie with Cartia, the couple from Australia with their amazing Penelope, Maddie who got pregnant at barely 14, Sophie who got twin boys in her last year of highschool and Cam&Fam. In the meanwhile Claire had a sister and is expecting another sibling, the Duggars had… I lost the count… grandchildren and expecting more.

Now… About Camryn from Cam&Fam. When I first found her she had just given birth to a 33 weeks old preemie. In the meanwhile she and baby’s dad got married and had a 2nd baby. About a month ago, the 19 years old husband, father of 2, hanged himself in the garage.

At first I didn’t know what to think about it… now I just blame the times. We are living some horrible times. We are at a point in the human evolution when we’ve gained so much awareness about mental illnesses (and gender dysphoria) and you have so many sources of information, yet so many people are too ignorant about them and hate and bully and worse. What worries me is what these kids born after 2000 have to fight everyday… probably only they know. The social pressure in the online is tremendous. At least YouTube came with a good idea of stopping the comments sections to the channels that portray the life of minors. For me is intringuing why so many kids and teens nowadays are diagnosed with ADHD or Spectrum Disorders and end up becoming addicted to the medication.

I am very scared for my daughter. So many things are changing. You really don’t know how the school will look like 5-6 years from now. Social distance for kids in primary school? This is not only utopic, but torturous. Social distance for kids in highschool, when they are discovering their bodies and the emotions between them?! Yeah, Good luck, Charlie.

The work system that most knew, collapsed. So many lost their jobs. For me, personally, this was an advantage, as I’ve been working from home for several years and it got me the opportunity to come back earlier than planned, to a very flexible work-schedule, but, with a small baby at home it would be impossible to work a full-time schedule like this, and God, I’m yearning about it so badly, as I would hate to fall behind in my career. I think this is what drives me (crazy) the most.

I even wanted to say at some point that, aside from those 25 mil reported Covid cases that tested positive so far, probably another 25 mil people “tested” positive to some form of mental illness. I think this is the real pandemic.

Myself, in particular, I’m very close to request depression medication. I’m not writting it as a complaint or as a “poor-me, save me”, I am not even angry anymore. I am just accepting the fact that I am not the way I was anymore. Ok, I’m still breastfeeding, plus some other stuff I have on my plate, that have left their mark on my nerves. But, hopefully from now on the pressure will slowly decrease and I will start to wake up with a smile on my face again. After at least 8h of sleep/night.

I didn’t want to write earlier because I wanted to have also something positive to share, aside from the fact that baby now has 8 teeth and 4 molars and she is walking by herself like a pro and even “doing” gymnastics.

And what else I’ve been doing lately… aside from taking care of a baby almost 24/7 and also working 2h/day, in average…

So, I passed that Czech Language test for Permanent Residency. I wrote about it on Facebook, I don’t wanna go back to that (feeling) again. On Monday I should go to retrieve my final Permanent Residency paper. But whether this will entitle me to a Czech ID with permanent domicile, I honestly don’t know.

Then, this Tuesday, I had the ACCA exam on Taxation, the Czech system. After getting stuck in traffic for almost 1h on the highway and fighting with her dad because we were not agreeing which route to take, baby threw up in her car seat, just 5 min before arriving to the parking lot in Brno.

It was the first time in her life when she throws up. Then, she was looking so much better and composed, it was just a one time thing, but it marked me, emotionally, as I was already there in the back with her and I didn’t know if I should take her out from her seat if she is chocking or not… Anyway, I entered into the exam worried and stressed for leaving her. I had a fight with her dad again, because I asked him to go with her in the stroller and buy her a new car seat and he wouldn’t. At least they went and saw it, the one we agreed on, but they didn’t buy it.

I felt like the worst mom in world when I put the baby in the way back home in the same dirty car seat. We cleaned it with wet wipes as much as we could but it was still stinking. But she slept like an angel the whole way back, 1h&45min without saying anything at all.

So yeah… I have no idea if I’m gonna pass this exam, especially because of one 10 points question that was probably intended to be easy, but it blocked me, because it was the first big one and it was from the introductory chapter… I had stressed myself so much to go through all the past exam questions from the Exam Kit and I was reviewing each main chapter again, each week, but it simply didn’t cross my mind to at least read one more time the introductory chapter. So I lost too much time trying to write something to that question and then I didn’t have time anymore to finish what I actually knew how to solve. And that Excel place where you write your answer is horrible, because you cannot see the Cell reference when you click on one formula, among other things.

Now… I am seriously flirting with the idea of 2-3 weeks vacation with the baby in Romania. We just have to go to the notary and get the papers so I can take her out of the country just by myself and then I will buy the plane tickets. But now I’m stressed because the reported Covid cases in CZ have increased too much in the past days and what if the austrians come again with some brilliant idea of closing the borders. Because I’m flying from Vienna, is closer, faster and also much cheaper that from Prague.

So… That’s about it for now. I’m trying everyday to find reasons to look forward to. There are so many things that don’t work out and I have to change, but I don’t have that much energy to fight in that many battles.

One step at a time

So baby did today her first step. She was standing in the big bed next to me and she was keeping her balance for quite a while, when I showed her that she can move one leg from here to here. And she did it! Without falling! Mommy so proud.

Ok, she is walking with support of our hands for more than a month now and she is also climbing up the stairs just by herself for the same amount of time. She is just a slower starter. Taking her time to enjoy infancy as much as possible. 😍

Ok, and I write also here if I haven’t already, as I bragged about it in several places and nobody seemed to care anyway, is like, because of covid, they already cancelled also the “best working mother of the year award” (yeah, I just invented it).

So I started back work, but just 2h/day, because I still have baby at home… Some of the days she didn’t let me work at all during the day so I had to do it in the evening after she fell asleep, which turned out a bit more tiring than I was expecting. And last Friday I had a full day of online mandatory training… and because I had to learn a new region (I’m kinda like a back-up for Nordics now) it took me more than 2h/day so far to understand all the files. Tiring, but manageable. Nothing that a cocktail of one Paralen, one Isla, one Iron and one MagneB6 wouldn’t fix.

And this week we also submitted the papers for permanent residency… And (did I already mention this?) I kept the appointment for the language exam anyway, as it’s going to be a nice experience. I guess I have developed a strange addiction for taking exams now. And as crazy as I am, I aim to pass it with 100%, even if only 60% is actually needed for A1, because at reading and hearing I am quite A2 already.

And on Monday I will probably be sending by post also the tax form for the basic deduction for 2020, which was supposed to be signed by mid-february, but, back then, it didn’t even cross my mind that I will want to work at all during 2020, so I skipped it.

So yeah, one step at a time, one day at a time!

Dear daughter

As you are sleeping now at my bosom, I wish to tell you something…

Among other virtues in life, you need to learn the virtue of discretion. You need to find the energy of keeping someone else’s secrets. Something that your mom couldn’t learn until too late in life… because your mom is a Sagittarius Sun with also Uranus, Jupiter and Neptune in Sagittarius… When people come to you, to tell you things about them, you don’t have to tell them back to someone else unless you have their permission.

If is not an urgent matter of health, you don’t have to tell me either. I mean, the little things, the who did or said what to whom or about whom, you can keep them for yourself and maybe even suggest people to stop coming to you with this kind of things. Gossip is not cool. Expecially in a world rulled by social media.

You obviously can tell me if somebody treated you disrespectfully or bullied you, so that we can find together a solution to stop it, without being rude. You will probably be bullied, in this small city, because your mom is a foreigner and because you will speak better English than Czech by the time you start kindergarden…

So yeah… hang in there, baby!

M-am trezit la cinci

De la 1 iulie am re-început munca… Nu plănuiam asta, planul meu era să revin din Mai 2021, cu 4 ore/zi..  dar… printr-o înșiruire de coincidențe acauzale, s-a întâmplat. Doar 2 ore/zi, de acasă, așa de acomodare. Acomodarea bebelinei: că mami mai are nevoie din când în când să plimbe degetul pe un ecran mic la un laptop… de cele mai multe ori când doarme ea, dar uneori doarme mai puțin de 2h și mai sunt și momente cu urgențe, cum ar fi închisul de lună.

Ieri a dormit 1.5 ore la prânz, era extenuată, după somon la cuptor cu conopidă gratinată și băiță la mijlocul zilei (pentru că de la o vreme a început să testeze dacă anumite alimente sunt bune și ca mască de păr)… Am fost cu ea la Fryda cu căruțul și cu autobuzul, ca să-mi iau ochelarii noi și să-i mai cumpăr niște jucării. De fapt ea voia doar 1-2 baloane, restul până la 700 de coroane sunt jucării pentru mami. Ok, nimic fancy, o piscinuță gonflabilă, niște rățuște de plastic, de plutit pe apă și încă o chestie cu niște bucățele de lemn colorate, înșirate pe niște bare de metal.. mda..

Să-ți povestesc: ieri dimineață, adică la gustare, la vreo 2 ore după micul dejun, i-am desfăcut o punguță din aia de smoothie de fructe. Nu a vrut nici să guste din ea.. Deși îi plăceau mult. Așa că am înfiletat dopul la loc și i-am dat-o să se joace cu ea, cât eu mă văitam la taică-su pe messenger, că trebuie să merg la mall să-i cumpăr mai multe jucării, că se plictișește. Când m-am uitat la ea sorbea de zor din punguță, ba chiar o terminase! Și nu era nicio picătură de conținut vărsat. S-a uitat la mine și mi-a arătat cu o față foarte mândră, că a desfăcut capacul singură. Mi-au dat lacrimile!!!

Tot timpul ăsta eu îi țineam punguța când sorbea din ea, pentru că la început (pe la 7 luni) avea tendința să apese pe ea și sa verse conținutul peste tot, țâșnea ca o fântână arteziană! Dar se pare că între timp bebe s-a prins cum funcționează treaba și vrea singură! Acum, pe ambalaj scrie că până la 1 an trebuie ajutați să o țină sau serviți cu lingurița, abia după 1 an să pape singură din ea. They grow up so fast! Au mai trecut deja 2 luni și eu nici nu mi-am dat seama. 😂

New baby milestones

From the beginning of the month I took baby to playground and she tested some of the things, but more she was mesmerized by the other babies. We’ve been there few days in a row, before the weather f*d up.

Now it’s 14°C and raining continuously since yesterday afternoon. Talk about summer weather.. Maybe I have more time to go outside now, but I don’t think in any of the years since I am living in Frydek-Mistek rained as much as this year so far.

Now back to baby… So when we couldn’t go to playground anymore I taught her how to climb our stairs between the floors, in all four, like pets, and she was very good at it from the first time. I’m putting her to practice this 2-3 times a day, good training for increasing her legs muscles.

And we also walk slowly with support from mommy, but she is doing it a bit weird, twisting her legs, like models on a catwalk.

And she can stand herself up in two legs, right from the ground, with no support at all! And she is so happy about it! She is doing this almost all the time while we are in the big bed, because she knows there is no harm if she ends up falling, but she tries it also upstairs in the living room.

But yesterday she managed to pull herself on top of the small table over the heating pipes, by the balcony’s window. You have to see a picture to understand what is this so I will wait for her to do it again.

Aaand she is kissing me! I taught her from when she was a tiny baby the eskimo kiss and now she comes to me and she is rubbing her nose to mine and then she kisses me also on the cheek or on the lips wherever she manages and then she laughs!

And she is cuter and cuter everyday, now that her hair has grown a bit she really looks like a girl, so I’ve started to dress her more in dresses… as long as the weather allows it.